I read a good quote the other day which went something like ” When drinking from the well, do not forget where the water came from”
My immediate reaction to this was “So what about if you discover that the water is poisonous after drinking from it for years?”
This has really got my thinking spiraling all over the place. I believe that I am a loyal person and I have been accused of not being loyal in the past because I have chosen to go my own way. I fully admit that I could of handled things differently and been more honest in my approach but we only do what we know at the time.
I have trained under many great martial art instructors and mentors in my time. I believe you should learn from the best, I’ve traveled many miles in a day just for a seminar, spent 10’s of thousands of pounds on my own training and I don’t feel that its a waste of time or finances as its helped me became the person I am today which I am pretty happy about.
The martial art instructors that I train under I pick for my selfish reasons, because they offer me what I am looking for at this time. They are on the same path as me, except at a higher level.
I have fallen out with instructors, well I haven’t really fallen out with them but I have felt they have held a grudge towards me for moving in a different direction, to the extent of one of them posting videos up on their YouTube channel ridiculing me and editing the videos and wording to make themselves look good. That did take me some time to get over but I eventually used it as an opportunity to get used to not being liked by everyone.
Going back to the original quote and loyalty, I have never forgot anyone that has helped me on my Journey, whether that is Business, martial arts or personal development. I am truly grateful for everything they have shown me, even the ones that don’t think much of me.
Loyalty though, is a Two way thing, at the time I am with someone, I believe I am a very loyal person, I will defend people behind their backs if need be and even after I have stopped being mentored or taught by someone I will still hold them with high respect but sometimes people are not all they seem like they do in the first instance. On occasions it takes years to realise that it is not a great match. That may be because you have grown spiritually or that you have been taken for a ride.
Holding grudges is like the quote about wanting to poison someone and drinking the poison yourself, (I am thinking I’m crap at remembering quotes) Wish them well and move on, we are all on our own different paths, you can not throw a stone in someones direction because unless you are perfect. I’ve made decisions that have affected and hurt other people, I’ve also not made decisions when I should of done. I am on a mission to be the best person I can be but I will never be the perfect person that I would like to be.
I also believe that people come into your lives at the right time, so thank you to everyone that is and has been a part of my half century on this planet.
Lets see what the next chapter is like 🙂